GRATITUDE IS A KEY INGREDIENT FOR HAPPINESS

Over the years of working with people I have noticed that those who are generally happy have a deep sense of gratitude.  Such people were usually successful with their goal even if achieving this goal was very difficult.  Conversely, people for whom the glass was half empty, achieving a relatively easy goal was problematic.  Such people find it more difficult managing the problems of life.  Both self hypnosis and meditation can help with this.  There are techniques in both that lend themselves to becoming more aware of the awesomeness of nature, of what's good in one's life and to generally having a greater feeling of well being.  

WHY SHOULD I MEDITATE?

There are many reasons a person may want to meditate.  We live fast paced and often stressful lives.  We know that meditation enables a person to relax, be at peace with himself and to have a beneficial effect on health.  It helps lower blood pressure and heart rate and helps strengthen the immune system.  It can helps a person manage medical conditions, such as migraines, heart disease, and many others that are related to stress.  Medical studies have proven that meditation quiets that area of the brain responsible for the mind wandering.  Having a greater ability to focus has many positive ramifications.  Of course, many people meditate to discover their true inner spiritual core.  The late Swami Chidananda taught that our true mission in life is to use our mental faculties to bring an awakening to that spiritual awareness.  He taught, "Where as deep down your real life is spiritual if anything at all.  And if not spiritual, it is nothing at all."  Whatever your reason or reasons for meditating may be, I feel certain it will enrich your life.  

MEDITATION AND SELF HYPNOSIS

My book, which has been on Amazon as an ebook, is now available as a paperback.  If you've tried to meditate and have had difficulty or if you want to begin, this could be a big help to you.  It will help you determine what is the best meditation technique for you.  It describes the best ways to prepare for meditation.  Each technique described has a self hypnosis exercise designed to fit with it in a seamless manner.  Don't give up if you've been frustrated with the process.   Go to Amazon.com and type in Jeanette Bayda Perkins to see if you think this might be useful to you. 

HOW CAN I USE SELF HYPNOSIS TO GET THROUGH A DENTAL APPOINTMENT?

I was recently asked by a friend for advice for getting through a dental appointment when I realized I had not addressed this in my blog.  So, let's move away from meditation for the moment and get back to self hypnosis for a problem with which many of us deal.  

Think about a special place, a place that is peaceful and relaxing to you.  Decide where you want to go before practicing this technique.  Sit comfortably with your eyes closed and your limbs uncrossed.  Take several deep breaths, exhaling slowly.  A slow exhalation is important to attain maximum relaxation and to avoid hyperventilation.  You can then return to your usual rhythmic breathing.  Imagine your special place.  See the sights and colors as vividly as you can.  Hear the sounds.  Experience the feelings, both tactile and emotional.  As discussed in a previous entry, one sense will probably be dominant so emphasize that sense in your imagery.  Now count slowly from 50 - 1.  Once you've reached the count of 1, count 1-5 and open your eyes.  Practice this daily to develop a conditioned response to ensure that when you use it in the dentist's chair it will work quickly and well.

When you are in the dentist's chair, close your eyes and take several deep breaths with slow exhalations.   You can then return to your usual breathing, but can take other deep breaths any time you need to during the procedure.  Imagine your special place and count from 50-1.  You will be used to doing this and it should be easy and effective.  However, if it is a particularly uncomfortable procedure and you have difficulty with the imagery, you can always count.  The deep breaths and counting will still work well for you.  Just make sure you count slowly as it will help keep you calm.  Once you reach the count of 1 simply go back to 50 and continue until the procedure is over.  

I've used this technique with many clients and have used it myself with great success.

WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO PREPARE FOR A SELF HYPNOSIS AND/OR MEDITATION SESSION?

We are creatures of habit and can use this to our advantage.  Before sitting down to do self hypnosis and/or meditate, think about something or things you can do each time to create an association with that mellow feeling you have while in this state.  You might want to wear the same article of clothing each time.  You might choose one place for your session that you always use.  You might light a candle first.  As soon as you do one or all of these things, you begin to relax and set the mood for a more satisfying session.  Is it absolutely necessary?  No, but it helps. 

HOW DO I KNOW WHICH FORM OF MEDITATION TO USE?

There are many styles or forms of meditation.  Selecting the one that is right for you is critical.  For example, one type of meditation is to visualize something or someone of spiritual significance or, if used for relaxation only, something that brings a feeling of peacefulness.   If, however, you are not a visual person, you should not struggle to develop your visual skills.  It would be better to find a different form of meditation.  Using a mantra, for example, can be used by anyone regardless of which sense is dominant.  There are many styles of meditation that do not call upon visual ability that may work well for you.  There are many books and articles on meditation.  In my book, Meditation and Self Hypnosis, I describe seven different forms of meditation, what the significance and advantages of each one are, and which sense or senses are predominantly used by each one.  With each form of meditation, I have devised a brief form of self hypnosis to do prior to beginning meditation to help you relax and focus.  This makes it much easier to quiet your mind and immerse yourself into the experience.  If you aren't sure which sense is most dominant in you, try daydreaming about a relaxing scene, see it, hear it and feel it.  Then determine what was easiest and clearest in your mind.  This is the first step, but it is a very important one.  Many people have given up thinking that they couldn't meditate simply because they selected a form of meditation that wasn't right for them.

WHY IS SELF HYPNOSIS SUCH AN IDEAL VEHICLE INTO MEDITATION

As you can see from other posts, self hypnosis helps us to focus inward, on ourselves.  As we gain a greater self understanding, we can more easily improve.  Meditation is generally used for spiritual elevation and awareness.  If we believe that the very essence of one's self is God, there is clearly a relationship between the two.  Hypnosis accesses the subconscious mind, which is connected to our ego identified self as well as our inner or Higher Self, the universal spark that is within us and that permeates through all of reality.  I believe that is why there is such great power with these relatively simple techniques.  This is not something one can measure with brain wave studies or any other objective quantification.  It is something, once experienced, you know is very real.